Three Spiritual Principles

I saw a spiritualist on cable talking about a year ago. He offered three spiritual principles that I wanted to share. Wish I could remember who it was. He said:

1. "You are not what you do."

My take:
Too many of us get so wrapped around our titles. What is good for the ego is not necessarily good for the spirit. I have a little technique that helps get people out of this mindset. Next time you meet someone, ask them: "What do you do?" Recognize that you are asking for an action verb, not a noun. Often people reply, "I'm a _____." They've responded to your query for a verb with a noun. This is self-limiting.


2. "You are not what you have."

My take:
People need to feel special about themselves. Sometimes we let materialism interfere with our ability to find inner self-worth. Do something meaningful. If an artifact represents an experience that created meaning in your life, that's a thing worth holding on to. Keep things that trigger memories and experiences: that is real value.


3. "You are not your reputation."

My take:
In the game of life, we often struggle to find purpose through our work reputations. That's fine, but don't let it become a negative force. Suicide is never the right answer. You can find new purpose even when others censure you. Let go of relations that harm the spirit and nurture those that vitalize and amplify your talents and values. Always represent yourself positively. You are perfect the way you are. If people do not appreciate you, find other people to work with.

Do not seek to find your passion. Live and work with passion.

The Golden Rules of Power and Influence

Many years ago I wrote an article, inspired by Dr. Peter Vaill at George Washington University at the time. I can't find the whole text but thought my audience would enjoy the gist of it:

Golden Rule #1: Do Unto Others As You Would Have Others Do Unto You.

I believe this is Biblical and just good sense.


Golden Rule #2: Do Unto Others As Others Would Have You Do Unto Them.

This recognizes that people are different and want different things.


Golden Rule #3: Do Unto Others As You Would Have Others Do Unto Others.

In other words, lead by example.


As we move toward flatter, more democratic organizations and institutions, I hope these three Golden Rules will serve you well. Please post or link stories here where you have found resonance in these principles.